To Be A Lady

I’m not exactly a big supporter of Twitter (I don’t have one of my own), but I do like this suggestion, so perhaps if there is enough support, I would be more than happy to. Thank you for your input!

I agree that some of the advice I give is old-fashioned, though I don’t necessarily think that’s always a bad thing. Of course I don’t expect a gentleman to stand when a woman stands, but I don’t think men are exempt from some of my advice. A lot of people have commented that some of these things don’t only apply to ladies, but to all people, and I agree. I believe that men should wear cologne just as ladies should wear perfume; I believe that men should mind their tongues. I am by no means sexist and 99% of the advice you find here I think would go either way. 

And I completely agree that we are all modern women and it shouldn’t be expected of us to all look prim and proper. I’m sure I may seem like some stuffy old woman from the looks of things, but I can assure you that I am just like any other girl my age, though maybe a little more refined (which is why I started this blog in the first place). I don’t expect everyone to follow every single detail of the advice I give, that would be ludicrous. I myself forget things from time to time. These are just reminders - to look put together when it counts, to try and say the right thing so you don’t offend someone, to be polite and civilised, to respect yourself and others. 

If you are polite and a good person, I will think far more highly  of you than any prim and polished, but rude and selfish person. 

And remember, these aren’t rules. These are reminders. I’m not telling anyone what to do or who to be. That decision falls entirely upon yourselves.

I believe that a person’s personal life should be kept personal, and that means that whatever goes on between you and another should be kept private. That way, you can avoid being the subject of petty gossip, and it’s respectful of your significant other (or others). I don’t think people appreciate being talked about behind their backs (whether it’s good or bad) and they deserve better. Things like that get around and can get out of hand (and it’s best to keep an air of mystery about you, anyway).

Furthermore, in the event of an unfortunate experience (a euphemism I like to use for “hook-up”) with someone, I doubt that they would fancy you going about and blabbing about it. It’s just best to be respectful of people’s privacy and feelings. I don’t necessarily mean that everything has to be under lock and key, but just understand the line between what is appropriate and what is not.

If you think about all great women, none of them were admired or respected just because they looked pretty. I believe that beauty is the whole package - how you look, how you act, how you smell, etc. A woman could be the most well groomed, most good-looking woman in the room, but without those other aspects, can be entirely overlooked in favour of someone else.

A woman’s perfume or her voice or the feel of her skin can leave an even greater impression on a person than just her appearance. I believe that beauty is not just one thing - it’s an entire package.