This blog seems oddly old-fashioned. Some things are positive like having confidence, but when things are submitted like 'wear perfume' 'never give a negative opinion unless asked.' Um. We can go without perfume, men aren't asked to wear cologne, and men can give their own opinion, negative or positive. I'm a girl, I'm polite, I try to be a good person, and I care about others, but I wear jeans that are ripped in the knees, my hair doesn't always look prim and proper, and I love rough housing and climbing around in the woods. I just don't think it's right for this to be considered a full etiquette for women. Why do we need so many rules? Just be who you are.
I agree that some of the advice I give is old-fashioned, though I don’t necessarily think that’s always a bad thing. Of course I don’t expect a gentleman to stand when a woman stands, but I don’t think men are exempt from some of my advice. A lot of people have commented that some of these things don’t only apply to ladies, but to all people, and I agree. I believe that men should wear cologne just as ladies should wear perfume; I believe that men should mind their tongues. I am by no means sexist and 99% of the advice you find here I think would go either way.
And I completely agree that we are all modern women and it shouldn’t be expected of us to all look prim and proper. I’m sure I may seem like some stuffy old woman from the looks of things, but I can assure you that I am just like any other girl my age, though maybe a little more refined (which is why I started this blog in the first place). I don’t expect everyone to follow every single detail of the advice I give, that would be ludicrous. I myself forget things from time to time. These are just reminders - to look put together when it counts, to try and say the right thing so you don’t offend someone, to be polite and civilised, to respect yourself and others.
If you are polite and a good person, I will think far more highly of you than any prim and polished, but rude and selfish person.
And remember, these aren’t rules. These are reminders. I’m not telling anyone what to do or who to be. That decision falls entirely upon yourselves.
I would just like to take this opportunity to remind you all about my FAQ page. I’ve received quite a few questions the last couple of days, so if you’re waiting or looking for an answer, that’s where you’ll find it. So don’t think I’m ignoring you!
please elaborate on "a lady never kisses and tells"
I'm sorry, but I dont get it
I believe that a person’s personal life should be kept personal, and that means that whatever goes on between you and another should be kept private. That way, you can avoid being the subject of petty gossip, and it’s respectful of your significant other (or others). I don’t think people appreciate being talked about behind their backs (whether it’s good or bad) and they deserve better. Things like that get around and can get out of hand (and it’s best to keep an air of mystery about you, anyway).
Furthermore, in the event of an unfortunate experience (a euphemism I like to use for “hook-up”) with someone, I doubt that they would fancy you going about and blabbing about it. It’s just best to be respectful of people’s privacy and feelings. I don’t necessarily mean that everything has to be under lock and key, but just understand the line between what is appropriate and what is not.
.. i`d like for you to elaborate on the typography:
"beauty is not just visual,
it employs all the senses ."
If you think about all great women, none of them were admired or respected just because they looked pretty. I believe that beauty is the whole package - how you look, how you act, how you smell, etc. A woman could be the most well groomed, most good-looking woman in the room, but without those other aspects, can be entirely overlooked in favour of someone else.
A woman’s perfume or her voice or the feel of her skin can leave an even greater impression on a person than just her appearance. I believe that beauty is not just one thing - it’s an entire package.
Because I don’t want to clutter my blog page, nor your dashboards for that matter, I won’t be responding to most messages directly. However, if there are any questions that I happen to receive, I will be more than happy to answer them than to leave them unattended, for which reason I have set up a FAQ link on my page.
Any questions I answer can be found there (and I’m usually quite good about receiving messages quickly, so it shouldn’t take very long for you to find a response). You may also find that your question has already been answered and posted on that page, as well.
I adore reading all of the messages that are sent to me (I read every single one and take every piece of criticism into consideration), so don’t be shy about sending them.
Thank you for all of the lovely compliments! You make my blog worth maintaining.
I have made it a habit of reading the comments people make whenever they reblog one of my posts, and while some of them make me smile, others I find rather disconcerting. Namely, the overwhelming focus on boys.
Men are important. Of course they are - where would the human population be without them? But it’s upsetting to know how many girls tend to put their focus on boys above all other things. The advice I give is not about men, but people in general. Don’t stop acting stupid because boys will think it’s stupid, but because all people will think it’s stupid. Look your best not to get men to like you, but to get you to like you. You will always come first - those are words that every human, not just lady, should live by. Live your life for yourself, not to find a boyfriend or to collect suitors. Because in the end, your man may leave you, but your life will always be your own.
I’ve always believed that the right man will love you as you are. That may sound silly and cliche, but are you not more likely to find happiness with someone who finds everything, even those little quirks, lovable, than someone who you have to tiptoe around forever?
Be yourself and put yourself first. Everything else comes second.
I am genuinely astonished by the response this blog has received. I never anticipated this much positive feedback, and for that, I thank you all!
I would also like to take this opportunity to remind you all that I welcome all of your ideas! I am by no means an authority on matters of class, etiquette, or fashion, which is why I encourage anyone with ideas for future advice posts to submit them for consideration, as well as inspirational quotes from other fabulous women (or men, of course).
So go, submit! I’d love to hear what you all have to say!