September 2011
36 posts
this is not "to be lady" this is "my opinion of how to be a lady"
Well, yes - I thought that much was obvious.
I'm not defensive that you don't share my views, I'm concerned that you made a list of ways to act in order to be a "classy lady." and then, "..I’m no authority on being ...a gentleman, so it really wouldn’t be my place to tell gentlemen how they should behave. Furthermore, I don’t believe it’s a woman’s place to tell a man how he should be..." You're right, it's not your place to say how a man should be, nor women's, and nor are people "gentlemen" or ladies" just for acting a certain way.
Actually, I’ve grown tired of people telling me that they can act however way they want and they can still be considered ‘ladies’ and ‘gentlemen’, because, quite frankly, no you can’t.
‘Lady’ is not synonymous with ‘woman’, just as you wouldn’t call any man you see a gentleman. To say you can act however you want and still be considered a lady is like saying that anyone can be a ‘badass’. If you saw a man hit his girlfriend, or walk around with his pants hanging halfway to his knees, would you consider him a gentleman? Hardly.
I do not consider people who are impolite or sloppy or inconsiderate ladies. To me, a woman who is courteous and put together, among other things, is a lady. And while it is perfectly fine if someone doesn’t want to be a lady, to say that you can act however you want and still be considered the dictionary definition of courtesy and decorum is entirely false.
So, yes, people are ladies and gentlemen just for acting a certain way. It’s exactly the same as if someone is an idiot for acting a certain way.
Hello dears,
I’m not sure about the rest of you, but all of that pink on my last theme was starting to hurt my eyes, so I’ve decided to switch things up a bit. Here are the latest updates to my blog page:
- I have a new theme! It’s simple and clean, so I like it. I just want something that you can easily navigate and that isn’t too busy, so I hope everyone is happy with this one.
- I’ve introduced a Tags page. If you’re ever looking for a certain post, this may be helpful to you. As of right now, only the pages for the quotations I’ve posted are available, but once I’ve sorted through everything else, I will have included all of my posts.
- I’ve also created an Advice page. I’ve been receiving a lot of messages from followers looking for advice and I decided to make a separate page so that I don’t clog up the FAQ page. As of now, it’s blank, but I’ll hopefully have sorted through everything by the end of this weekend and have that page fully functional. Also, for anyone who has submitted a question seeking advice, in the future, that’s where you will find it. All other questions will be on the FAQ page.
So that’s that! I hope you all like my minor improvements to this blog. As for the blog itself, I’m still looking for suggestions for both tips and quotations, so please submit! I would like to make it clear that not all suggestions that I receive are posted, though they are all taken into consideration. Suggestions that I find to be controversial or irrelevant won’t make the cut. All other suggestions I add to a list and I gradually work my way through them.
Stay classy, ladies.
Sometimes I wonder if its worth being a lady because honestly, it seems most days the girls flashing their cleavage and just being "unladylike" seem to get all the guys. : C It is especially hard being in highschool, the things girls do here are very...different, not to mention I'm rather shy. Any advice?
My piece of advice to anyone who is facing a similar dilemma is to stop and reflect on this for a moment: if these boys are going around and chasing girls like that, would you even want their attention? Firstly, if you say you are rather shy, and these girls are going about ‘flashing their cleavage’, then clearly you are nothing alike - so would you be happy with a boy who finds the opposite of you so much more attractive? And secondly, these boys who are chasing around girls that act so inappropriately probably aren’t gems themselves. Someone worth your time would see beyond the cleavage, so you’re lucky to have these girls clearing the way for all those boys who would be much more deserving of your time and attention.
It may not seem like it now, but in the great scheme of things, high school is just a pit stop on the road, and no one’s going to remember who did or did not have a boyfriend. In any case, boys don’t provide happiness - you have the power to make yourself happy. I know that that may seem like unhelpful advice right now, but it really is the best I can do, and hopefully you’ll understand what I’m getting at.
Being a lady isn’t some sort of cheat sheet to get the guys in high school to like you. But hopefully, down the road, you’ll find someone who appreciates you for who you are, a lady or not. And that is far more important than getting all the guys now.
To my dearest followers,
I was hoping to take a moment of your time to have a brief discussion about an issue that has been bothering me. Among the criticism that I’ve received, one of the points that stand out most is the issue of feminine beauty. My critics seem to believe that my focus on beauty and physical appearance is a form of internalised sexism and is patriarchal and male attention driven. Sorry to disappoint, ladies and gentlemen, but that isn’t at all the case and if that’s all that you see, you aren’t looking deep enough.
First and foremost, while I cannot speak for others, I can tell you that I choose to look the way I look for me. When I look good, I feel empowered – like I command respect and attention, I am confident in my abilities, and I don’t feel hindered and distracted by my insecurities. When I stand up to speak, that spot on my chin won’t be in the forefront of my mind nagging me, and to me, that is one of the most empowering things – that I can completely disconnect myself from my physical insecurities. So when I put on a nice outfit in the morning, or swipe on some mascara, I’m doing it for myself.
Secondly, beauty is subjective. That is why I believe that it is most important to be happy with your own appearance than to focus on making others happy. You will never achieve universal adoration. I would never encourage my followers to chase perfection in the hopes that it will make them better people. Be the person you want to be and the person that makes you happy, inside and out. I encourage my followers to look put-together and groomed – not blonde, blue-eyed, large-breasted, and skinny.
Finally, I don’t think I have ever met a woman who looks the way she does solely for a man’s attention. To say that the concept of beauty is patriarchal is a misandric statement. Of course, if I have my eye on a certain someone, I may do myself up a little bit to get their attention, but on a day-to-day basis, I do not dress up and apply make-up so I can look attractive for men. Are men not encouraged to look handsome as well? If physical attractiveness was an entirely patriarchal concept, men would go about their days looking like bums while women tripped over one another to the make-up counter.
You can argue that this is still some sort of indoctrinated internal sexism that the misogynistic society, run collectively by all men, has forced upon me and I am no longer able to distinguish between what I believe and what I think I believe. The fact still remains that I don’t encourage women to chase perfection and some general idea of beauty and it is ludicrous to suggest that that’s what my blog does. I want women to feel powerful and confident and to command respect and attention by doing those tiny things that make them feel beautiful. That, I believe, is the essence of a true lady.
Not to be mean, or rude but what does washing your face before going to sleep have to do with being a lady!?
A lady is always careful of her appearance and takes pride in the way she looks and in the way that she manages her appearance. She has healthy habits and takes great care of herself and her body. She does her best to be beautiful inside and out and makes sure to radiate health and beauty.
