To Be A Lady
Daily words for today's ladies: on wisdom, glamour, life, beauty, grace, and etiquette.

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Dearest followers,

First and foremost, I wish to thank everyone who has sent me kind and supporting messages in the last while. They honestly mean so much to me, especially in the light of all of the backlash that this blog has been receiving lately. So once again, thank you for your kind words and support.

I’d also like to take this opportunity to let everyone know that I am still taking suggestions for posts and quotes! So feel free to submit anything and everything that you feel is appropriate. I also happen to love receiving questions from you all, whether they be asking about my posts, my quotes, myself, etc. Don’t be shy about those, either!

Finally, I want to remind everyone about my FAQ page and that if any questions are submitted, that is where you will find them. If there is a question about one of my posts, I may post that onto this blog, but 90% of the messages I receive can be found on the FAQ page. 

Once again, thank you to all of my supporters! 

itwillmakeyousmile: Do you realized you have two opposite rules? "When in doubt, dress up." and "When in doubt, dress modestly."

Dressing up and dressing modestly are not opposites. You can be fancy and modest. To dress up, I mean less casually/more formally. For instance, instead of jeans and a t-shirt, perhaps opt for jeans and a blouse. Modesty refers to how revealing an outfit is. 

And please don’t refer to them as rules, because that is not how I see them at all. They run more along the terms of guidelines. 

peanut-sauce: by saying "if your legs are exposed, make sure they are shaved", you are judging women for whether or not they shave.

Darling, I’m not going to argue with you over something as trivial as leg hair removal. I am not forcing anyone to do anything. No one is going to agree with or approve of 100% of my posts, and that is totally fine - I’m not going to judge anyone because their views oppose mine. I understand that everyone has different opinions, preferences, norms, etc, and I completely accept that.

Furthermore, I am a modern woman and I get lazy or busy and I find hair removal tedious and time consuming and pointless (and even expensive), and there are times when I will go out in shorts and prickly legs. I really don’t expect people to pay that much attention to something so unimportant. Therefore, I understand that every other woman will probably feel the same way at some point or other, so who would I be to judge them for that?

Finally, I am acquainted with many girls and women who do not shave (or use any other hair removal method) because it is against their culture, traditions or beliefs, and I am completely understanding and accepting of that fact. 

I’m a big girl, and I’m not going to cringe every time I see a woman with hairy legs. So no, I am not judging women for whether or not they shave. My preference for hairless skin does not automatically make me completely against women who don’t have it.

peanut-sauce: a most said something about if you're exposing your legs, make sure they are shaved.. why though? seriously, please explain to me why.

I don’t necessarily believe that one has to shave, just as it’s a man’s choice whether or not to grow his facial hair. However, as a woman living in the Western world (I don’t pretend to know anything about Eastern cultures), I would be extremely naive to think that I could go around with my legs hairy and wild and not get negative reactions from other people. Yes, I suppose that by shaving I am conforming to Western conventions, but that doesn’t always have to be a horrible thing.

Furthermore, I believe that shaving (and this counts for both men and women) makes one look more put together and careful of their appearance, and I believe that a person’s appearance is still important. 

Bottom line, hair removal in general is a woman’s prerogative and I am in no position to judge a woman for her choices. 

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